 By Jim Selman | Bio
I was recording a podcast recently in
response to the question of how ‘elders’ should be dealing with money
these days given the current and projected economic mess. The woman I
was speaking to was clearly ‘worried’ about her financial future. I
started my response by sharing that over many years of coaching I
sometimes chuckle when speaking with women because they all seem to
have a generic fear of becoming a ‘bag lady’. There was an interesting
article in the Toronto Globe and Mail in December titled, “Why women
look in the mirror and a bag lady looks back”. It seems this archetype
pervades a lot of women’s deepest fears of failure and becoming
destitute.[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I don't think that age is personal. I know
it feels like it is 'me' that is getting older, but I don't experience
myself as older. If anything, I experience my 'self' as being 'better'
than at any time I can remember over the past 66 years. I feel more
'alive', more engaged, more present and more satisfied than ever. It is
true that my body can’t run, wrestle or climb as easily as in the past.[ Read More]
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 By Elizabeth Russell | Bio
Read Part I and Part II of this series.
It is difficult not to notice that many people focus on their
health—the latest visit to the doctor or the most recent medication. I
realize that, at least in part, this is due to a shift in
attention—away from a concern with family, community or the world and
toward this body in which we dwell and which, at this time of life,
would command all of our attention if we let it. It is also difficult
to live in this environment and not be reminded, almost daily, of our
mortality, as one after another of us leaves in an ambulance. [ Read More]
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 By Elizabeth Russell | Bio
I
had enormous resistance in moving into what I thought of as “an old
folks’ home.” For years I had said to my children, “I’ll never live in
one of those places!” When circumstances conspired to make such a move
wise, I spent much of the first few months in my new home looking at
San Francisco apartment ads, traveling to the city to look at those
apartments. As I did, I began to notice the difference it would mean to
me living in one of those apartments as compared with living in
Woodside Terrace. Increasingly I acknowledged that it no longer made
sense for me to live alone and, with that acknowledgment, came the
appreciation of having my apartment cleaned and my linen changed
weekly, having meals prepared for me and having emergency help as near
as the cord next to my bed or by the shower in my bathroom.[ Read More]
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Life happens while we are having conversations with ourselves and other people. Not learning from others may have a lot to do with not truly
‘listening’ to what others say. Listening is the context that makes
life intelligible, allows anything to have meaning, and forms the basis
for all communication (both written and spoken). It is a whole lot more
than just ‘hearing’ the words that are spoken. I’m always listening,
always bringing a prior interpretation or understanding of my world to
every situation I encounter or can imagine encountering. This is the most basic aspect of being a human being I know.[ Read More]
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By Shae Hadden
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- Resistance causes persistence.
- You get what you resist.
- Practice non-resistance.
All
these axioms seem appropriate when speaking of violence, acts of
aggression, conflict, long-standing issues of hate and fear. But why
would we resist the 'good' things in life like friendship, support,
trust, attraction and love?[ Read More]
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By Shae Hadden
Bio
Was talking with a close friend this week, and we were both
acknowledging how much we’ve changed over the last few months. Looking
back, it would seem the circumstances of our lives have forced us to
grow, to expand our individual perspectives to encompass all the
challenges life has offered—from critical illnesses and ongoing health
concerns to business changes, relationship transitions and dramatic
encounters with fear and uncertainty.
Yet
it’s not really the situations we’ve found ourselves in that have
instigated our growth. Life happens…irrespective of our wants, wishes,
desires, needs. The situations and events of our lives are simply
potential catalysts, opportunities for us to choose. [ Read More]
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