 By Jim Selman | Bio
There are two kinds of break-ups. The
‘soft’ breakup is where both parties in a relationship more or less
stay in communication and talk about their differences, their
discontent or their changing needs until they arrive at a conclusion
that “This just isn’t working” and agree to go their separate ways.
Sometimes they remain friends. In any case, this kind of mature and
honest ending allows both parties to let go of past expectations or
disappointments, eventually reach some degree of ‘completion’ with the
romance and move on with their lives. The ‘hard’ breakup is when[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
We’ve all experienced a situation—whether in
a marriage, friendship or business relationship—where we find ourselves
thinking about the other person and saying, “I love you, BUT…”. It’s in
that moment we realize a particular behavior of theirs is not
acceptable to us and has become a source of stress and resentment. For
many, resentment almost always leads to a downward spiral of
self-destructive behavior and the eventual destruction of the
relationship. I was coaching a friend recently who is in such a dilemma.[ Read More]
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By Shae Hadden
According to Dr. David Suzuki, “it is not
progress to use up the rightful legacy of our children and
grandchildren.” He opened the first Elders and the Environment Forum
on Monday in Vancouver, Canada with a keynote address that focused on
the role of elders in the environmental movement and how we can make a
difference:[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
It is almost impossible to turn on the television or read a
newspaper or a magazine without encountering one pundit, expert or “man
on the street” either talking about the future or trying to blame
someone for something. Our media commentary is rarely about what is
happening now: mostly it’s about what happened in the past or what
someone thinks is going to happen in the future. Combine the
establishment media with all of the blogging and chatting going on, and
it is incredible how fixated we are on what will happen next.[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
Over
the course of my lifetime, I have heard many ‘bottom-line’ bits of
wisdom. For example, “the key to happiness is loving what you do”. Or,
“at the end of the day, you can either resist life or surrender and
live life on life’s terms”. These kinds of nuggets are usually true
and are certainly valid in a list of maxims and aphorisms for living.
“All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” by Robert Fulghum
is a great example of this genre. My favorite (and the one that I have
personally found the most useful) is one I first heard in the 1970s in
something called the ‘est training’. The ultimate choice we have as
human beings, we were told, is whether we are ‘at the effect’ of our
circumstances or whether we can relate to them ‘at cause’, meaning be
responsible for everything in our lives.[ Read More]
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 By Sharon Knoll | Bio
Cooking with my daughter, Krista, is bliss. We were making Crabby Crabcakes, an incredible recipe from Mark Bittman at the NY Times.
They were 99% crab with a little bit of stuff we purchased at the Queen
Anne Farmers Market to hold them together: brand new potatoes baked
with olive oil and rosemary, and sautéed summer squash and caramelized
onions with herbs. (Can you stand it? Are you ready to rush out and
cook and enjoy the wonderful tastes of fresh grown great food?) Our cooking together is like a dance—an intensive information and learning exchange.[ Read More]
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 By Kevin Brown | Bio
Like
me, you can probably remember a relationship you had as a child with an
elderly relative or friend of the family. Some of my best memories of
such a time involve Mrs. Cowling, an elderly lady who lived next door
to us. We had just moved to a new neighborhood in Calgary, and there
were only two completed homes on the block. Our home had the only
family of children for about three blocks. There was my older sister
Paulette (13 years old), myself (7) , and my brand new brother Ken who
was not yet one. Mrs. Cowling was in her eighties[ Read More]
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 By Shae Hadden | Bio
The
algae bloom on the lagoon where I’m housesitting seems symbolic of the
state I’m in these days. Long-forgotten, half-hidden ideas seem to be
coming to the forefront of my thinking and showing the richness of
their colors and their impact on my life. Like my belief that “fear is
toxic”. A belief that has been stored for years in my body and which
I’m now choosing to let go of. It’s true that fear[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
Sandra,
my financial advisor and friend, and I were talking about the
‘meltdown’ the other day. I was asking how my retirement investments
were doing and she shared that I probably don’t want to know. She is a
believer that markets go up and down and, over the long-haul,
reasonably conservative investing will pay off. Historically this may
be true, but somehow knowing that doesn’t help when you are afraid of
‘losing’ your life’s savings or having to live off your friends and
children when you are old. Sandra’s advice was to relax and don’t read
the newspapers. I think she is right. When I think about it,[ Read More]
Written by eldering at The Great Turning
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 By Rick Fullerton | Bio
Over the past few months I have been an
absentee blogger, a consequence of having accepted a full-time work
assignment that I expected to last two years or more. I was enticed by
a personal request for my services to lead a strategic initiative that
would call on my experience and skills. So after nearly 10 years as a
freelance consultant, I returned to work inside an organization at age
62. Any major decision like this comes with[ Read More]
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