By Jim Selman | Bio
Our
group of men met for our semi-annual retreat on Vince’s farm in New
Jersey. We’ve been meeting twice a year every year since 2000. Next
year will be a decade of friends coming together for no other purpose
than to support and empower each other in our lives. We’re older and
we’ve been through a lot together. What I’ve grown to appreciate is
that we’re all very willing, able and open to being vulnerable in
sharing our lives, our experiences and our wisdom with one another. In terms of the facts of our lives, I am sure we are[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
I think one of the saddest things I hear of
as I grow older is when real friends become estranged. It isn’t that we
can’t have strong disagreements and even periods of disengaging from
regular conversations at any age. But when ‘falling outs’ become
long-term estrangement, bitter memories, regrets and resentment people
we once called friends become burdens or even foes. We pay a heavy
price to hold onto whatever stories we tell ourselves to justify our
position. Most people would rather be right about their point of view
than repair the damage to their friendships or at least to responsibly
‘complete’ the relationships that cannot be restored and forgive
themselves and the other person.[ Read More]
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By Irene Noble
My mother, my friend,
died when she was 91. I miss her still, yet it was eighteen years ago.
She was a beautiful, elegant, stylish lady. More than that, she was
forgiving, uncomplicated by her total honesty, always willing to learn
new ways, new directions even though it might require a reversal of old
assumptions.[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I am spending a few days with my best
friends—11 guys who get together a couple of times a year to share our
experience of our lives and support each other through difficult times
or to celebrate accomplishments. We usually meet at Vince's farm at
least once a year. It is a magnificent property in Western New Jersey
with geese, chickens, horses, a couple of llamas and lots of deer on a
rolling green framing a revolutionary era stone house and two imposing
red barns. [ Read More]
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I had a lot of fun yesterday and last night. It was so much fun, I
wonder why I don’t have this kind of fun all the time. I am
distinguishing between happy and fun here. I am happy most of the time
and enjoy what I am doing, but fun is somehow different. The day was
spent playing golf with my buddies and then we all went to an Italian
cooking school and spent the evening laughing and eating an incredible
dinner. But
what we did isn’t the source of ‘why’ it was fun. [ Read More]
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This story was submitted by Cindy La Ferle over at Cindy's Home Office.
Until
I met Sylva B., I rarely socialized with 'older people' outside my
family circle. When I wasn’t working, I hung out with friends my own
age. At least 40 years my senior, Sylva was the silver-haired
personnel manager who interviewed me for my first job in reference book
publishing in Detroit. I was 25 then, and desperate to get my career
off the ground. Applying for an entry level position, I was required to
pass a typing test and a two-hour literature exam. I was so nervous
during the session that my fingers froze at the keys and I flunked the
typing test on the first try.[ Read More]
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