By Jim Selman | Bio
Someone
said to me in a meeting yesterday that there are a billion blogs. The
number seemed high, so I did what we all do these days. I went to Google
and in about 30 seconds of looking at “How many Blogs are there”, I was
assured there are closer to 100 million, with about 175 thousand new
ones being created every day. So while the billion estimate was a bit
exaggerated, it is obvious that there are a LOT of blogs. This got me thinking: why so many?[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
There is an old
joke that says, “Sex after 60 is better than ever, but the mounting and
dismounting aren’t so pretty.” If you’re laughing, you know what I’m
talking about. If not, you’re still young enough to have something to
look forward to. I attended a conference recently featuring Steve Pavlina,
the number one blogger on personal development. The topic was about
expanding traffic to your blog and one of his ideas was to write about
something ‘timeless’, something that lots of people have in common and
that breaks the mold of everyone’s expectations. Well, my writing has
been about transforming our notions of growing older and to encourage
intergenerational dialogue, so what better topic to muse on than SEX.[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I am one of the folks who love Christmas. I
am not particularly sentimental, nor am I into elaborate decorating or
gift-giving. I just like the music and the general shift in mood that
seems to come with the season. I recognize, however, that not everyone
is ‘happy’ around Christmas time. This is the season for lots of
‘relapses’ in 12-Step programs, a ‘blip’ in suicides, and (of course)
the usual problems associated with too many parties and too much
alcohol. Whatever the reasons, there is definitely a dark side to
Christmas. As I’ve grown older, I see more clearly[ Read More]
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
Forty-five
years ago Marshall McLuhan coined the phrase “the medium is the
message”. I wonder what he would have made of today’s
media-on-steroids. Someone sent me a fascinating YouTube piece called “ Social Media in Plain English” , which was followed up with a dramatic piece on the extraordinary impact of all that is going on in the Social Media Revolution.
It includes a new term I had never seen before: socialnomics. It’s
getting easier and easier to feel ignorant and out of touch. The
general consensus is that the phenomenon of social networking/social
media is as potentially revolutionary as the Industrial Revolution.[ Read More]
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 By Kevin Brown | Bio
In my previous post, I discussed showing
up in conversation without pre-formed conclusions about the person we
are entering into conversation with. While the post was directed to
conversations with those we provide care for, the article applies to
any conversation that we find ourselves in. Whether at home, work, in
not-for-profit organizations, at Church, or just in casual conversation
with friends; how we show up in conversation has a profound impact on
our relationships.[ Read More]
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By Kevin Brown | Bio
There was a time when ‘showing up’ for a
meeting, an appointment, or a family event left me thinking about being
on time, what I must remember to bring, or what I should wear.
Increasingly though, I have been thinking about how I ‘show up’ in
conversation with the people I interact with. I am talking about
conversations with my work colleagues, fellow churchgoers, friends,
extended family members, my son, my wife, and even with my God. When I
began to consider how I show up for others in conversation, I realized
just how little attention I was giving to being responsible in my
conversations.[ Read More]
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By Kevin Brown | Bio
In
last week's post, I discussed how care for family Caregivers,
especially when the provision of care occurs over prolonged periods,
can leave the Caregiver drained of energy and in need of care
themselves. I noted that Caregivers should endeavor to maintain their
own health, keep up their social network, stay involved with family and
share the caregiving. One gentlemen responded with[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
For
no particular reason, today I am more conscious than normal of my
‘little voice’—you know the conversation in our heads. I talk about
this phenomenon a lot in my work. People laugh when I challenge the
conventional view that they can control it: “Try to turn it off” or
“Don’t think about what I am about to say”. Then I suggest that this
conversation we are always having, what we call thinking, is in fact an
endless stream of thoughts that may or may not be related to what’s
going on and further, that this ‘voice’ is not ‘me’. This voice, like
breathing, is an aspect of who we are but is definitely not the ‘I’
that we associate with being ourselves.[ Read More]
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 By Shae Hadden | Bio
It’s difficult these days to not worry
about something—what with the economic crisis, pollution, climate
change, species extinction, resource depletion and the melting polar
ice caps, not to mention the innumerable human conflicts on the planet.
Many of our conversations revolve around one or another of these
topics, or at least are impacted by the larger global issues we all are
facing. And much of what I’m hearing in what people are saying is that
they are ‘worried’ about the future—both their individual future and
our collective future. Considering the scale and the complexity of the
issues we’re facing, it might seem that we should worry. I beg to
differ.[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
Last evening we were having a lively family
conversation about life in general and Eldering in particular. We
talked about whether there is, in fact, a ‘generational divide’ and, if
so, what can we say about it. To my surprise, my children and my son’s
girlfriend all felt that there was less of a divide in the minds of
people their age than in the minds of people my age. I asked the
question, “What do young men and women talk to each other about that
you would be reluctant to talk about with people our age?” What they
said is that reluctance to have a particular conversation or to be open
has more to do with the culture of the participants than with their
age. They all agreed that they are more ‘open’ and authentic in urban
West Coast types of circumstances than when they travel to the Midwest
or the South.[ Read More]
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