 By Jim Selman | Bio
We’ve all experienced a situation—whether in
a marriage, friendship or business relationship—where we find ourselves
thinking about the other person and saying, “I love you, BUT…”. It’s in
that moment we realize a particular behavior of theirs is not
acceptable to us and has become a source of stress and resentment. For
many, resentment almost always leads to a downward spiral of
self-destructive behavior and the eventual destruction of the
relationship. I was coaching a friend recently who is in such a dilemma.[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
I think there is a time when we realize that
‘what got us here’ isn’t sufficient to get us ‘where we want to go’.
These times are the transition points in life, the points where we have
an opportunity to make major choices and embark on a new phase of our
lives—to experience a transformation in how we observe and relate to
ourselves, other people and the world in general. I can recall having
this feeling when I left home for college, again when I got married,
when my children were born and at various times when I changed the
direction of my career.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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 By Shae Hadden | Bio
I’m sitting at my desk, watching the sun set behind the mountains,
listening to the city winding down at the end of a long, hot summer
day. My big move is now complete: all boxes unpacked, everything put
away (at least somewhere, for now), cupboards stocked, and fresh linens
on the bed. Three months ago, when I chose to relocate, I had no idea
it would be such a circuitous route to my new ‘home’. But now that I’m
here, I’m glad for everything that showed up in my journey and for
everything I had to let go of in order to arrive at this most perfect
place for the next phase of my life.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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 By Kevin Brown | Bio
Earlier in the spring, I wrote an article titled The Care and Feeding of
Seniors
in which I stated "I view aging: as a natural progression of life that
embodies endless possibilities. This view is the core reason why I
joined the Eldering Institute, an organization that promotes a life of
power, purpose and possibility for Elders. I choose to live in a world
in which individuals, regardless of age, are committed to continually
creating new possibilities for their lives. I am speaking of
possibilities that allow individuals to share the very best of who they
are. In the world I envision, imagine the impact that Elders,
collaborating with other generations, will have on the communities in
which they live, learn, work and play!"[ Read More]
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By Kevin Brown | Bio
My lovely wife has spent her day
today moving my mother-in-law from Calgary to Edmonton. This is the
fifth time my wife has moved her mother in the past five years. She is
not complaining: it remains just a fact. Her mother has downsized from
a home to an apartment, relocated from British Columbia, Canada to our
home in Edmonton, moved back to a seniors apartment, and then to her first
experience in an assisted living complex in Calgary last August. Now,
just nine months later, she is moving once again to an assisted living
complex, but back in Edmonton. Regardless of the reasons behind all
these moves, I am continually amazed at how flexible, adaptable,
and welcoming of change my 91-year-old mother-in-law is. Her
willingness[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I was working with a group of people last
week in Mexico. The session was about planning and they chose as their
theme for the year “I am my word”. The idea was to emphasize
‘count-on-ability’ and the importance of delivering on plans. I spoke
to them for a bit and shared the following reflections.[ Read More]
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By Shae Hadden | Bio
I’m thinking of the term “mid-life change”
often these days. No matter what age we are, we are always in mid-life:
neither at the beginning, nor at the end…yet. Most people tend to think
of mid-life change as something that happens when we’re in our 40s or
50s. But what if we took the view that, while we are alive, we are
always in the ‘middle’ of our lives, in the midst of constant change?
Would we, perhaps, become more comfortable, less anxious with changes
in our lives?[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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By Jim Selman | Bio
There is a nice retrospective on the 60s
going around the web, a kind of YouTube-type overview of some of the
highlights to remember. I am generally not big on trips down memory
lane, but this was kind of fun. It seems like a long time ago today
when we danced the “Twist” or transformed from bobbie socks and surfer
movies into flower children. I realized while watching that we, the
‘Boomers’, were a part (or maybe even the cause) of one of the biggest
societal shifts in American history. When you are part of something, it
doesn’t seem to be such a big deal at the time.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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By Jim Selman | Bio
Think about the positive attributes of
growing older, and ‘wisdom’ will always appear near the top of the
list. Until recently, I had assumed ‘wisdom’ was a kind of ‘right
knowledge’. Every time someone says the Serenity Prayer, I am reminded
of this attribute again.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to
know the difference.”
I wonder if I do know the difference.[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
The engine that drives the world’s economy
is a principle that is embedded in our worldview—“more, better and
different”. It may seem obvious, but when we think about consumerism,
materialism or alcoholism—or any ‘ism’ really—they are all based on the
idea that if we like something, then ‘more’ is good (and conversely, if
we don’t like it, then ‘less’ is good). Continuous improvement demands
that things get better and better—and ‘more’ better is better than
‘less’ better. At the end of the day, we work hard to innovate and
create ‘different’ expressions of what we already have. These three
perspectives pretty much define our options at every moment. To do
‘nothing’ is rarely considered as an alternative. Experientially, we
cannot tolerate boredom. We’re hooked on change, but the only change we
can relate to is ‘more’, ‘better’ and ‘different’. Remember the axiom,
“The more things change, the more they stay the same…”?[ Read More]
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