 By Jim Selman | Bio
There is an old
joke that says, “Sex after 60 is better than ever, but the mounting and
dismounting aren’t so pretty.” If you’re laughing, you know what I’m
talking about. If not, you’re still young enough to have something to
look forward to. I attended a conference recently featuring Steve Pavlina,
the number one blogger on personal development. The topic was about
expanding traffic to your blog and one of his ideas was to write about
something ‘timeless’, something that lots of people have in common and
that breaks the mold of everyone’s expectations. Well, my writing has
been about transforming our notions of growing older and to encourage
intergenerational dialogue, so what better topic to muse on than SEX.[ Read More]
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By Jim Selman | Bio
Yesterday
I was coaching a friend of mine. I was sharing a bit of how important
it is to ‘come from’ your vision for your life. Our future is always a
product of our actions, and our actions are always a correlate of how
we relate to the future. When we act as if the future has already
happened, then it is only a matter of time before that future is
realized or we learn what we need to learn to achieve it. Her response
was, “Well, you make it sound so simple, but it is too abstract and I
need to know ‘how’ to have what I want in the future.” This was my
response.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Learning
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I was working with a group of people last
week in Mexico. The session was about planning and they chose as their
theme for the year “I am my word”. The idea was to emphasize
‘count-on-ability’ and the importance of delivering on plans. I spoke
to them for a bit and shared the following reflections.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Leadership
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
Either/or.
This way of thinking about and relating to life is one of the most
persistent and difficult aspects of our culture. Everything is either
this or that. And if it isn’t this, it must be that. This either/or mode of observing and thinking about the world is not a function of our brains.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Wisdom in Action
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 By Jim Selman | Bio
I was listening to a lecture today on the
philosopher Martin Heidegger. He is pretty difficult to understand at
the best of times, even though I have been a student of his thinking
for many years. The lecture today spoke of the distinction he made
between ‘tradition’, which he felt was a bad thing, and ‘heritage’,
which he thought was a good thing. In fact, he felt heritage was
essential to understanding the true nature of ‘Being’.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Wisdom in Action
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Life happens while we are having conversations with ourselves and other people. Not learning from others may have a lot to do with not truly
‘listening’ to what others say. Listening is the context that makes
life intelligible, allows anything to have meaning, and forms the basis
for all communication (both written and spoken). It is a whole lot more
than just ‘hearing’ the words that are spoken. I’m always listening,
always bringing a prior interpretation or understanding of my world to
every situation I encounter or can imagine encountering. This is the most basic aspect of being a human being I know.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Learning
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 By Shae Hadden | Bio
The green-crested hummingbird is at my window again this morning,
hovering in mid-air sunshine and snatching bits of food from the plants
as they begin to bud. He appeared in my life a few weeks ago, and has
been coming back every day without fail. Today his weightlessness seems
like a metaphor for a new way of Being.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Learning
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I don’t think it is news to anyone that we experience life through its
contrasts. We don’t notice or appreciate hot until we get cold; we can
take kindness for granted until it goes missing; we typically put off
taking care of our health until it starts to deteriorate. At this
moment, I am half-way through the longest trip of my life—mostly work
with some vacation thrown in around the edges. Consequently, I am very
present to how important ‘home’ is to me now that I am away from it for
so long. In my case, Vancouver British Columbia is home. It is a home
of my own choosing that I stumbled into while visiting my daughter when
she was attending school on Vancouver Island. As someone who has lived
in a lot of places, I found Vancouver to be everything I ever wanted.
It was love at first sight.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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Today is a holiday in Madrid. There must be a million people on the
streets. There is a lots of military pomp, soldiers marching by the
review stand near my hotel, and five planes flying overhead. The
weather is beautiful and life is good. I am always delighted to have a
day off when I am in a city to just experience ‘being here’. Madrid's
downtown core is beautiful—great old buildings, wide avenues, a
magnificent palace with a living monarch, and a great ‘old town’ where
you can almost get a ‘feel’ for the Spanish Inquisition. I like Spain a
lot. If I were to live in Europe, it would be a toss-up between France,
Denmark, England and Spain. These days, warm weather is winning.[ Read More]
Written by eldering at Fearless Aging
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I like this word. I don't know why…perhaps because it is one of those
words that seems to express itself in speaking of it. The word means
'anxiety'—a kind of generalized anxiety with being alive. The existential philosophers talked a lot about angst. In fact, we
normally associate angst with existentialism—existential angst. The
word is usually associated with a negative mood such as depression or
what Thomas Merton characterized as "the dark night of the soul". I
think that Heidegger talked about it as the inherent tension between
'being' and 'non-being'. I think that angst underlies the 'suffering'
that Buddha associated with human existence and probably is behind the
concept of 'original sin'. Whatever its origins or deeper meanings, it
is a day-to-day practical reality for most of us in our unending quest
to 'get it right' and 'be happy'. There are lots of strategies for dealing with angst.[ Read More]
Written by Jim Selman at Personal Empowerment
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