By Vince DiBianca
I’ve noticed I’m feeling a certain dynamic tension between two
opposing forces. On one hand, I’m committed to going out in the world
and maximizing the difference I can make. In my 60s, that continues to
be a significant priority. On the other hand, I’d like to play more,
visit with my family and work in my woodshop. And that too is a
tension comes from the fact that I’m equally committed to both
priorities. I look for ways to organize my life and integrate my
activities to accomplish both. Some weeks are a bear. For instance,
this week’s first priorities include travelling to Tokyo, preparing for
two client assignments, and conducting intensive coaching of two
leaders in distress. These commitments make it a challenge to complete
my other top priorities, which include my Christmas shopping, visiting
with the grandchildren and building some toys for the kids in my
I’ve found that the key to balance is two-fold:
- Staying highly conscious of both priorities and how I’m spending my time AND
- Talking to my loved ones when I feel off balance.
Patty, my significant other, and Dave, my friend and partner, are
great choices. The mere act of having a conversation with them is
freeing—not to mention that they always contribute good ideas.
Yup, relationship is the key to resolving the tension and fulfilling both priorities.